Be Mindful

There is a lot going on with people right now. And they are running on fumes. At times they will come to you. Not for an opinion or advice, but because they need an ear. They will be talking about things you have never experienced or been taught about. Because they need an ear. They won't say anything sometimes, because they only need your presence. Stop pushing them to speak. When they are ready to open up they will.

They may just need to be by themselves. They aren't ready to jump off a bridge but they are overstimulated by life and need to recharge. Let them. Don't call back to back to back to back. Let them get themselves together. When they are ready, they will reach out.

Please don't tell them that you understand. Especially if you don't. What they may be struggling with you could be complaining about. They don't have enough to pay their bills but you are complaining that you have to pay them. Be thankful that you can do that. If you have been in their position tell them how you got through it. And don't be deep about it. They are not in a deep place. And to be clear, they don't want you to pay their bills. They need information so they can do it themselves. Keywords: information not opinions.

Be mindful. Always pray for them. What they aren't saying in words is being stated in actions. Be respectful of the season they are in. And if you have been in that season don't act like you haven't been. Be real. Tell them you have been frustrated, tired, and pissed all they way off.

This is just a reminder. They will be taking care of themselves. That means they may be off limits to people for a while. It isn't mean or shady. It's necessary.

One Love,
Fredrika.


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